I am in the middle of reading a beautifully poetic tribute to the blessing of food, a book which was a surprise birthday gift from my friend, Laura D., called The Supper of the Lamb: A Culinary Reflection. This extended muse on the art of cooking and eating broadens the imagination regarding culinary and gastronomic pursuits, raising the sights from the utilitarian notion that what goes into the mouth is just for keeping the machine running, to a higher view of the nobility of the kitchen and the food drama that occurs there.
In the chapter about proper kitchen tools, the author has this to say about a woman with a good meat cleaver or butcher knife:
A man who has seen women only as gentle arrangers of flowers has not seen all that women have to offer. Unsuspected majesties await him…You will also be provided with an instant rejoinder to anyone who presumes to lecture you on housewifery as an abject capitulation to the feminine mystique. Simply let him see you presiding over your kitchen with steel in one hand and butcher knife in the other. Execute six-well-drawn strokes, and his words will turn to ashes in his mouth. He was ready for a maladjusted prisoner of the pantry; you have showed him instead one of the priestly archetypes of the race.
This is the kind of imagination we ought to have regarding all our domestic pursuits. Yet so often we find ourselves at extreme ends of the spectrum: we either think that the glossy home magazines in the checkout line exhibit the (unattainable) height of housekeeping, or we listen to the attractive lie that such things are drudgery and that we were made for greater things.
The latter lie is being promulgated by well-coiffed, smooth-tongued women who claim to be reformed Christian thinkers. While limp-wristed men are celebrating the affirmation of their “right” to have their unholy unions recognized by the state of New Jersey, theologically-macho women are making inroads in a denomination that less than 100 years ago was the orthodox offshoot of the apostate Presbyterian church. Not content with the broad realm of homekeeping, they become busybodies, running from conference to conference, eschewing the “low” life of domesticity and encouraging other women with itching ears and itchy feet to do the same, all in the name of theology, yet only descending to the popular sport of Scripture twisting.
Read the sordid tale here, as related at the Bayly Blog, making sure to read the long response in the comments by Tim Bayly. His mother is my heroine. May we all learn such wisdom and peace. Much can be accomplished through the contemplation we are able to have while stirring a simmering pot of oatmeal or the prayers we pray in the quiet hours of the night while comforting sick children. More spiritual maturity can be attained while on our knees (whether in prayer or in service to our family) than while on the road.
I actually think Mrs. James is on to something when she says ezer can mean “warrior,” though she is wrong that it is an either/or job description, dumping the “helper” definition along with her housewifely credentials into the incinerator marked “Relevancy.” The point she is missing is that we don’t need to run away from home to fight our battles. The trick is learning that the fights godly women are called to fight will come to us, and we, like Jael, had better be at our posts when we need to be.
I’ve said it before, and I will die with it on my lips: Don’t despise the day of small things.
The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands. ~Proverbs 14:1